The Biggest Mistake You’re Making That’s Keeping You Stuck
Is your mindset around food and your body keeping you a prisoner in your own life? Do you feel stuck on something that seems so superficial and trivial, yet don’t know how to break free? I know you want more for your life. I know you want to experience freedom, peace and joy in your heart. You are not broken my friend. You’ve just been born into belief systems that conform to diet culture and societal ideals. You haven’t been taught how to feel your emotions or observe your thoughts, let alone to question their validity. There is another way to live and you know this deep in your soul, but there’s a mistake you’re making that’s keeping you stuck.
You’re a logical, smart woman yet you can’t seem to think your way out of this tumultuous relationship you have with food and your body. And that’s exactly the problem my dear. You’re trying to think yourself out of this place, which keeps you stuck up in your head. This is what got you into this cycle in the first place. What’s required is that you go within, that you get out of your head and into your body.
This I know sounds pretty scary at first, because it requires letting go and trusting. Here’s the thing though, the more you think about it the harder it is to do. You have to take a leap of faith and choose to take action. This is a practice and consistency will reward you. Once you get connected with your body again, it will be much easier to observe your thoughts non-attached. We have an innate wisdom in our body that we can trust over the often distorted, delusional thoughts in our head. I say that with complete love, because I’m right there with you. We all create stories in our minds.
So how do we get to this place of trust and connection? How do we get out of our heads and into our bodies? Breath is the easiest and quickest way to do this. It’s free and you can literally do it anywhere. Initially you may find that you forget to do something to get into your body, when you’re in a moment of stress. This is okay. The more you practice it the more ingrained it will become.
I like to focus on taking a deep inhale into my stomach, ribs and chest. Hold at the top. Then release from the stomach, ribs and chest. Hold at the bottom and repeat. I also count one, two, three, four on the inhale and then match the exhale to the same count. This focus on the breath immediately affects our nervous system and takes us out of fight or flight and into rest and digest mode. In this state we are able to make better, more conscious choices.
I think it’s really important to create a practice of going within each day and to make it fun! You could create a space in your house where you have some candles and/or incense, maybe an essential oils diffuser and a favorite blanket or cushion. You can use this time to do a number of things including meditation, journaling, practicing yoga asana and/or breath work. I like to do some journaling after I meditate or practice yoga, because I find the meditation and yoga are what get me into my body and then I can journal about how I felt and what my experience was.
For meditating I like listening to guided ones and you can find a lot of different meditation apps nowadays. I like the Michael Stone App and Headspace. Buy yourself a nice journal where you can get those thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Journal on how you felt after each experience of going within. The more you practice, the easier it will be to come from a compassionate place of love for all parts of you.
The biggest mistake you’re making that’s keeping you stuck is continuing to try to think you’re way out of the tumultuous relationship you have with food and your body. Before we look at your thoughts and do the cognitive work to shift them, it’s important to go within and reconnect with your body. You can’t skip the piece of increasing your awareness and consciousness with mindfulness, because you’ll struggle to understand what thoughts and emotions are coming up in the first place. There’s a quote that says, “In the absence of clarity, take action.” Start the practice of going within.